Life Lessons from Harry Potter

I was on my way to work a few weeks ago, the traffic gods mercifully smiling down on me (they don’t always), when the driver in front of me suddenly swerved to avoid something in the middle of the road. In a few seconds, it was my turn to veer sideways as I came upon a beautiful tabby cat lying motionless across the center line. Dead. My heart cracked a little.

Then, right as I passed the animal, just as he was leaving my line of sight, came the slightest twitch at the tip of his tail.

It took my brain several seconds to process what I’d seen, and another one to slam on the brakes.

So there I was, stopped on the thankfully not very busy highway, the cat by this point looking distant in my rear-view mirror. I could see no further movement from the animal, and I wasn’t a hundred percent sure I’d seen it in the first place.

For an instant, indecision pulled me in two different directions:

Option One: Assume the cat was already dead. The slight tail-twitch I saw could’ve easily just been the wind ruffling the fur.

This notion held appeal for numerous reasons. It would mean the cat was no longer in pain. It would mean me being on time to work, and not having to make any difficult, complicated decisions.

And then there was Option Two:

Go check on the cat, see for sure if it was alive or dead, and then deal with the situation accordingly. If it had passed away, at least I could move the body off to the side of the road. But if it was alive, then things would get complicated. Messy. I would have to get involved.

All of these thoughts flashed through my brain in the span of a blink, maybe two. And then came the words, the ones that always come at times like these. The quote I’ve repeated in my head more than any other:

“Remember, if the time should come when you have to make a choice between what is right and what is easy, remember what happened to a boy who was good, and kind, and brave, because he strayed across the path of Lord Voldemort.” ~Albus Dumbledore, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

I was already making my U-turn before the old wizard’s voice had even finished speaking.

I raced back to the cat and put my emergency blinkers on. The rest happened in an anxious blur:

The cat was still alive but in very bad shape. I pulled some gloves on and opened the back hatch of the car. Another driver stopped, also on his way to work, and I felt a rush of gratitude not to be completely alone in the situation anymore. I told him my plan to take the cat to the vet, and he thought I had the situation well in hand (I didn’t feel so sure, but I appreciated the vote of confidence).

I carefully wrapped the cat in an old jacket and laid him on a blanket in the back of the car, apologizing profusely for any further pain I was causing. I called in to work and left a message for the administrators, relaying what had happened. I probably talked a bit louder than necessary in my adrenaline-charged state but hopefully I didn’t yell.

Then we were pulling into a driveway to turn around, and zooming off to the nearest vet.

It took less than ten minutes. As soon as I arrived, I rushed around back to check on the cat. He didn’t look like he was still breathing, but the vet kindly let me bring him in just to double check. Sadly, he had passed on. I wasn’t surprised, but still felt a prickle of tears and a stab of grief for the person whose cat was not coming home that night, or ever again.

The vet promised to check the cat for a microchip and notify the owner if one was found. If not, they would take care of his remains with their stray cat cremation service. I left the jacket with him – a tangible sign that someone had cared for him at the very end – and slowly made my way back to the car and onward to work.

I was only fifteen minutes late – a small miracle, considering – and everyone was very kind and supportive about my decision to help the cat. Most of them probably thought I just naturally did the right thing, that I didn’t even consider doing anything else.

I wish I could say I’m that good of a person, but I’m not. The reason I love that quote from Dumbledore is because it helps me easily distill a hard decision down to its bare essence:

Is this the easy choice, or the right choice? It kinda sucks how often those two are not one and the same.

Sit by the TV with a beer and veg out after a long day at work, or drag yourself off the couch, inject some energy into your voice, and read the kids a bedtime story despite barely being able to keep your eyes open.

Throw your empty yogurt cup in the trash or rinse it out, crush it, and put it with the recycling.

Easy vs. Right. Whether a big decision or a tiny one, the advice works just as well.

Even with the choices laid bare, I still don’t always make the right one. The easy choice is often deliciously tempting because, well, it’s easy. And like I said, I’m not that good of a person. But with a little help from my favorite book series, I am trying to be a better one.

Scars Publication and Other News

Hey all! Long time, no blog! My apologies for the extended absence. Some big life changes, including a sick cat and a brand new job, have kept me very busy and struggling to find my new “normal.”

I’m happy to report that the cat is doing better, and I’m starting to find small windows where I can squeeze in some writing time. Lately I’ve been writing on my phone when outside with one of my special needs cats, as well on my lunch breaks at work (that’s where I am right now!).

My new writing partner!

It reminds me a lot of the old days when I first started writing. I just couldn’t find a good time to sit down at the computer and write. And I realized if I waited until I could find time to do that, I’d be waiting forever. If I really wanted to write my book, I’d have to find another way – so I did. I handwrote my first book in 15 numbered notebooks while outside watching our dogs and doing other animal-related chores.

If you want something badly enough, you will find a way, and I guess I needed life to teach me that lesson again.

One thing I wanted really badly was to release my paranormal romance novelette, Scars, before starting my new job. I am thrilled to report that I got this done, and Scars is available on Amazon and can be read for free on Kindle Unlimited:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D7864Z9N

I was also lucky enough to get another wonderful review. This one is from Astilbe over at Long and Short Reviews, and you can read it here:

http://www.longandshortreviews.com/book-reviews/scars-by-g-a-bassier/

I hope everything is well with all of you, and I hope to blog more frequently as I get back into the swing of writing, publishing, and advertising.

Peace and Happy New Year!

~Gretchen

Carrying On

 

I wish I could say that I’ve been one of those people who used the downtime of quarantine to become massively productive. I wish I could say I holed up and penned five epic novels, got completely ripped, and launched a successful business or two. I tip my imaginary hat to the people who can say that – you have my respect, my awe, and my envy.

I could give a list of excuses for why I’m not a pandemic wunderkind. I have many legitimate ones. Like the fourteen cats and kittens someone dumped on our property back in April, when all the vets and shelters were closed. (You can read all about this crazy event here.) I could point out that I have extra responsibilities helping to care for a family member suffering from a debilitating illness. I could complain about how draining and complicated a simple trip to the grocery store has become.

Like I said, I have many valid excuses. But the truth is, I have struggled just to get normal daily tasks done. Tasks that were hardly a burden before this all happened suddenly seem exhausting after so many grueling months of fear and uncertainty. I turned forty last month. I felt sixty-five. This situation has aged all of us, I think. When I wake up each day, I try very hard to be happy. Once in a while, it dawns on me that I didn’t used to have to try.

I’ve had a few pandemic-induced nightmares, all of them variations on same theme: I’m out in public, walking around shopping or whatever, and suddenly I realize I’m not wearing my mask. It’s horrifying. I quickly grab the collar of my shirt or coat and try vainly to cover up my nose and mouth but it’s never enough. Everyone around me is wearing their masks like good citizens, and here I am, completely naked – and not in a fun, nude beach kind of way. Oddly, no one appears to be judging me. But I am judging myself. I am judging myself so hard. I wake up feeling relieved the event never actually occurred, and grateful, because to date I haven’t lost anyone to COVID. The shadow creeps ever closer as more of my community members begin to fall victim, but for the moment I am lucky. The people who’ve watched their loved ones die via iPad screens, those are the folks who have real nightmares.

As this pandemic has dragged on, many things have slipped through the cracks in my life. This blog is one. Writing is another. Exercise would also have to be included on that list. I tried to put on my aerobics DVD one time during the lockdown, only to discover the disc was broken and wouldn’t play. Months of sloth-like inactivity later, I mustered the energy to hunt down a thirty-minute workout on YouTube. I barely survived the ordeal and for days afterward hobbled around with every muscle screaming like I’d been in a serious car accident.

I miss blogging. I miss connecting with other writers and fans. I miss being in some form of decent physical shape. I really, really miss writing on a regular basis.

It is time, slowly and with many faltering steps, to rectify all of these things. There is reason to hope, even under this oppressive cloud of darkness. The scent of spring is in the air, faint but undeniable: promising new vaccines, a new American President, more people doing the right thing and wearing their masks. The end is still a long way off, no question, but it is in sight. And in the meantime, like Luna Lovegood says in the final Harry Potter book, “We’re still here. We’re still fighting.”

So, my friends, let’s carry on.

A Storytelling Adventure

Blog - Raven Sign

Apologies for the loooong absence! I’ve been busy dealing with life’s little curve balls (see picture below) but I am alive and well and gearing up for my favorite time of year: FALL! (New TV shows, chilly weather perfect for sipping hot soup, pretty neon leaves on the trees, HALLOWEEN, NaNoWriMo–what’s not to love? 🙂 )

Diana!
This lovely little princess is Diana, an extremely shy feral kitten who showed up on our property several weeks ago. Taming her has basically taken over my life, but it is paying off–she will now let me pet her and even pick her up…sometimes!

Now that I’m finally back, I wanted to say a HUGE, economy-sized THANK YOU to everyone who came out to the storytelling event at The Raven on August 1st. Thank you for listening to our words, supporting us, and being a wonderful audience!

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Me, reading a short story (and trying not to faint from stage fright). Many thanks to R. Churchill for snapping this photo!

I am especially grateful to my folks (who ALWAYS have my back), my AMAZING writing partner (and her awesome family!), my buddy Churchill (who drove an hour to get there!), S.K. Mabry (who first suggested the idea and shared the opportunity with our writing group), Jody (who organized this great event to showcase local authors and their work), Katrina (who did a lot of the publicity) and the rest of The Raven’s super-cool staff–they treated us like royalty and wouldn’t even accept payment for our drinks.

And of course, thank you to my fellow authors for sharing your incredible stories with us!

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I didn’t realize until the end of the night that I was sitting directly underneath this creepy fellow! In case you can’t read the script, it says “LUST.” The rest of the seven deadly sins were scattered about the establishment. The Raven = coolest venue EVER.

I do believe it was my first time reading one of my stories out loud for an audience. Outside of my writing group, at least. Totally nerve-wracking (my heart was RACING) but also SOOO much fun.

There may actually be a video of it somewhere around here:

https://www.facebook.com/pg/RavenCafe/videos/?ref=page_internal

Also, a little birdie told me (actually it was Jody) that The Raven plans to host this event again, maybe around twice a year, so if you missed it the first time, keep checking The Raven Cafe’s blog for updates about when the next one might be taking place:

https://ravencafeph.com/

If you’re a local writer, think about participating next time! If you’re not local, consider approaching a business in your area to see if they’d be interested in hosting something like this.

Even if you’re not a writer, it is SO great to sit in an awesome venue like this and just let someone’s voice and words flow around you. I have attended numerous poetry readings over the years, and there is always something magical about being in an environment where you’re surrounded by people who love words and want to celebrate that love with others.

So go forth! Find a poetry reading or book signing in your area! Team up with other authors and local businesses to create an event like this. Share your words, and rediscover why you love writing and reading so much!

Thanks for listening!

~Gretchen

National Adoption Weekend

Me snuggling Madeline, a Furget Us Not Rescue cat, at our December 2014 event.
Me snuggling Madeline, a Furget Us Not Rescue cat, at our December 2014 event.

By some miracle, you remembered the date. You bought the sparkly necklace, you got the overpriced card, and you think you’re all set…but you’re still forgetting something:

This weekend is not only a time to buy candy and flowers for your significant other, but also a time to open up your heart and see if you can make a real difference in a special cat or dog’s life. This weekend is National Adoption Weekend.

If you think about it, you and your family could make this the BEST Valentine’s Day ever, not by shelling out cash for roses that will shrivel up or cards that will be thrown out after a few weeks, but by having an honest discussion about whether you have room in your home and your life for an animal that truly needs you.

Many animals fitting that description will be at PetSmarts all over the USA this weekend. At the PetSmart in Chesterfield, MI (51347 Gratiot Ave.), the cats and dogs batting their gorgeous eyes at you will be from Furget Us Not Rescue, a non-profit, foster-based group devoted to finding them “furever” homes. They will be there, waiting to meet you, from 12pm-3pm on Saturday, February 13th, and Sunday February 14th. Please don’t disappoint them!

I will also be visiting the store from 1pm-3pm on both days, signing all three of my Chicken Soup for the Soul books to benefit Furget Us Not Rescue.

We will have free candy and gift-wrapping available for the book signing, as well as a video of a cat doing something VERY silly. And I am always eager to meet fellow writers, readers, and fans. (Knowing me, we’ll probably wind up chatting endlessly about Forever with cute dogs curled up on our laps.)

Sound cool? Of course it does! But it won’t be the same if you don’t join us. Please come out to the event this weekend, support a great cause, and maybe, just maybe, meet a loving friend who will be with you for years to come.

 

New Story in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Cat Did What?

So, it finally happened. That thing I’ve been dreaming about, striving for, and working my behind off to accomplish for the last several years. A few days ago, my story, “The Greatest Gift,” was officially selected for publication in the upcoming book, Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Cat Did What?

Thus, on August 19th, 2014 (that’s THIS year!), my writing will appear in print for the very first time.

Believe it or not, it’s actually hard for me to write those words. As a shy person with Asperger’s Syndrome, self-promotion is probably the most difficult aspect of writing I’ve faced so far. The way I was raised, you don’t brag about yourself and your accomplishments – you just plain don’t.

And yet, when you’re a writer, you almost kinda have to.

It’s just the way of the business. I know this. I accept it. But still I’ve continued to cling to my shyness like it’s my old, faded-blue security binky. Hardly any of my friends know that I am serious about writing. I think only two of them are aware that I’ve been published before. If you’re wondering how many of them know about this website, that number drops to one. For some reason, telling strangers about my writing life is actually easier than telling the people closest to me.

It’s not that I don’t WANT to tell my friends. I do! I fantasize about it, imagine their reactions, and feel my pulse-rate go up a few notches. But when I finally see them face-to-face, my courage always seems to scurry away like a spider trying not to get stepped on. I keep my head down, and when my friends ask what’s new in my life, I just smile and say, “Same old, same old. Nothing interesting here.”

But now, this book is coming out, and it’s a BIG deal. It’s my chance to show this really awesome publisher – and potential future ones – that I can successfully promote a book and generate some sales. With dreams of getting my novels published some day, I can’t afford to stay in my shell. I plan on attacking this challenge with the aggression of a hungry Grizzly Bear – seeking out opportunities for book signings and media coverage, using every connection I have, and yes, telling my friends and family about my story’s publication.

(Even if it means blushing furiously and ducking my head while I do it.)

Whatever results I get – positive or otherwise – you guys will be the first to know. 🙂

Where there’s smoke…

Dear Readers and Guests:

You may have noticed that lately the updates to this site have been, well, nonexistent. Not to get all “dog ate my homework” on you, but I do have a pretty decent excuse for neglecting ATHF. Actually, it’s a really GOOD excuse: during the recent violent weather in the US, my home was struck by lightning and subsequently caught fire. The blaze was so bad, it took numerous fire crews almost three hours to douse the flames. No one – human or animal – was injured, but the damage to the structure was substantial. In the weeks since then, my whole family has been grasping for some sense of normalcy as we struggle to make arrangements for the near future and plans for the distant one. While I would never include my recent experiences on my top ten list of “favorite life moments,” in some ways the fire really was a gift, because it certainly showed me the very best that humanity has to offer:

As a woman I’d never met before ran over to take each cat from my arms as I carried them, one by one, out of the burning building, I marveled at the kindness of strangers. As a firefighter made trip after trip upstairs to rescue my birds, I couldn’t help but be amazed at the bravery of those who put their lives on the line every day. As my brother and his family sheltered and fed us, without question or hesitation, I knew that even though my home had just burned down and many of my possessions were lost, I was still the luckiest girl on the planet.

Right now, things are in upheaval. Very soon, that should change. And I just want folks to know that although the updates to this site might be sporadic for the next month or so, there WILL be updates. Whether I have home access to the Internet or not, I have no intention of abadoning this website. In fact, here’s a little sample of what I have planned for the next few entries:

Fan Stuff:

-Long overdue reviews of The Mentalist and Supernatural season finales (The Mentalist one is already 98% written!)
-Reviews of Iron Man 3 and The Man of Steel

Writer Stuff:
-Tips and resources for self-editing and taking critiques from others
-Rejection Letter Revisited (I’ll be posting one of my old rejection letters and discussing what I learned, and what YOU can learn from my mistakes!)

I want to thank everyone who has stopped by ATHF, both the one-time visitors and most especially the regular readers and followers. When I see that little “like” message, I know someone’s reading, and that makes it all worth it. 🙂 I appreciate your patience and support during this difficult time. The writer in me misses writing, reading, and submitting. The fan in me misses fan fiction and TELEVISION! (I don’t care if it’s reruns, I still need to see my shows!) Hopefully soon there will be time for all of these things. In the meantime, thanks for hanging in there.

Sincerely,
Gretchen